What if my spouse wants to join?

That's exciting news - we honor you for showing up in big ways!  

For Those Working on their Marriage without their Spouse on Board:

A question we often get from clients who are working on their marriage without their spouse is, “How do I get my spouse on board?” 

We have seen what works and what doesn’t work so we have a very specific process to do that. Here’s a quick DO and DON’T checklist: 

DO:

1)    Do dive in and work on yourself in the modules

2)    Do decide you’re going to let go of the need to push your spouse into doing something they aren’t ready for YET

3)    Do demonstrate the change in you to your spouse with ACTION and EMOTION, NOT WORDS.

DON’T:

1)    Don’t have your spouse just show up on Q&A call without talking with us first

2)    Don’t give your spouse login information and tell them they need to do this work

3)    Don’t invite your spouse onto a coaching call. 

4)    Don’t tell your spouse you’ve signed up for a program and they should join you.

We encourage you do dive in and allow the transformation to happen in your heart, mind, soul, and body, and resist the urge to pressure or talk with your spouse about joining. 

Instead, our process looks like this: 

1)    WHEN they get curious about how you are showing up and the changes they see that are evident, and they ASK you, “What’s going on with you? Why are you different?” 

2)    That is the opportunity to say, “I realized I haven’t been the spouse you deserve and I’ve been working hard with these amazing marriage coaches so that I can become the spouse you deserve and the person I want to be.”  

3)    THEN PAUSE. Let them RESPOND. 

4)    And IF they ask anything, like which coaches, what are you doing, or anything along those lines, you can tell them Scott and Rachel with Turnaround Marriage. Would you like to see the masterclass that introduced me to them? 

5)    IF they say yes, invite them to www.turnaroundmarriage.live and watch the 38 minute masterclass.

6)    AFTER the masterclass, ask them what their thoughts were.

7)    IF they say anything along the lines of, “That makes a lot of sense,” then you can say, “They would love to talk to you about what it would look like for you to join me in the healing process. Would you like to do that?”

8)    IF they say YES, then let us know in the support chat they are interested, and we will give you the next steps (set up a mini-breakthrough call with you both, to see if they are ready to join the Turnaround Marriage program and show up coachable, committed, and resourceful).

THE NEXT STEPS:

Once we’ve had a mini breakthrough call with your spouse and have determined they are ready to do this work with us and show up coachable, committed, and resourceful, as well as be an asset to the group dynamic, we invite them to join you on the Turnaround Marriage journey, and we celebrate you both! 

We especially want to thank God for being at work behind the scenes in your spouse’s heart and celebrate YOU because you’ve obviously been applying what you’re learning, and they are seeing something different is possible in your marriage.

INVESTMENT:

Bringing a spouse on board is not an additional full enrollment price – though many coaching programs charge the full amount.

The additional investment is on a sliding scale, depending on how far into the program you are. It varies between $500 and $1,500.  

We restart a new 9 weeks of support from the time your spouse enrolls. This will include up to 3 more coaching calls, 9 weeks of group sessions, and 9 additional weeks of support chat access for you both. 

The investment for someone who has already completed the program and whose spouse wants to go through the program on their own or with you at any point is only $1,500.